Virtual Hugs?

I think I have heard it all now.  A jacket that inflates whenever someone clicks like on your Facebook page.  A virtual hug from a virtual friend?  Okay, so somebody clicks “like” on your page, the jacket blows ups like a balloon and you get “hugged”.  So, what is next?  Well, the obvious thing to do is hug back.  You wrap your arms around yourself and you squeeze the air out of the inflated balloons.  Congratulations, you have just completed your very own virtual hug.

Do you think there will be many folks out there buying this?  Have we gotten to the point that a real hug just does not happen anymore?   I personally prefer a human hug from a human being.  Anything from a “Big Bear Hug” from a big burly guy, to the simple tiny hugs from that tiny little child you love so very much.  Are we becoming a virtual society?  That to me is scary.  Do we count among our close friends the thousand or so Facebook friends?  What happens if we get sick?  Do we get sent a bowl of virtual chicken soup?  How healing can that be, although I must say it will not add calories to your diet.  Think about all the virtual things that are going to be possible in our near future now that we can get virtual hugs.

I still say, there is no replacement for the real thing.  Tell me what you think?  I am new at this but I sure would like to hear from you.

Have a real blessed weekend, and I hope to hear from some of my virtual friends out there.  God Bless each and everyone.

House Sitting

Posted On October 3, 2012

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It is strange sitting in my Dad’s house.  I have been staying here since April 2012.  My sisters and brother thought it would solve so many problems if I just stayed here until the house was sold.  It has given me the chance to spend more time on my studies, but sometimes the quiet is overwhelming.  I am enjoying the first cool breezes of Autumn.  I love the crisp cool mornings, sitting on the deck with a steaming cup of hot coffee.  I just enjoy viewing God‘s handiwork.  It is awesome.  Hopefully, I will be able to get back to my blogging on a more regular basis.

I hope if you read my post, you will leave me a comment or message.  You will only make my day better if you do.

Enjoy……..

Wills and Estates are not for the deceased, but the family left behind.

Posted On April 19, 2012

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Wills and Estates are not for the deceased, but the family left behind.  Trust me when I say this, because it is so very true.  Adopt the motto:  “When in doubt, write it out, and be specific!”

It never occurred to me what would happen if I lost my parents.  Now I realize how devastating the loss can truly be.  First I have had to deal with the physical loss of my mother, then of my father.  Mom went home in March 2008 and Dad joined her in September 2011.  They had each done their will in 1969, but it was a very basic page and one half and did not designate anything we need today.  My Dad verbally told us our brother was to be his executor, but he never put this in writing.  My two sisters and I decided to honor Dad’s wishes and support our brother however we could.  We just never expected to be completely barred from gaining the closure we needed.  Now, almost eight months later, we are back at square one.  There are so many items that must be addressed, it is mind-boggling.

My whole point in this post is to tell you this…Make yourself a Will and be specific about even the smallest minor item.  You may feel your car, truck, stereo, TV, or even your “bottle-cap collection” are only worth something to you, WRONG.  Someone in your family wants one of the items for certain.  If two people want the same thing, there could be an argument over the item.  You never know how some people can act when an estate (no matter how small) is involved.  It does not take a great deal of time to think about those you will leave behind, but those that are left could spend more time than you think just trying to sort through the tangled mess that is your life.  I say tangled mess because when you try to understand another person’s life, it sometimes makes no sense why this or that.

Another item that is vitally important is life insurance.  It does not have to be millions of dollars, but at least have enough for your final expenses.  So far we have spent several thousand dollars with more to be spent, just trying to get our Dad’s estate settled.

I just spent a couple of hours on the phone trying to get information that is needed and found out we also have to have money to probate the will and to publicize the estate.  It seems every way we turn, we spend out more that we have any hope of bringing in.

So, take this as fair warning, the longer you put off making out a Will, the harder it will be on your family, should something happen to you.

QT Syndrome Claims a Child * Prayers are needed!

Posted On April 17, 2012

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Today was a day for some very sad news.  A little girl named Madison is now with God in Heaven.  She collapsed just like Lisa did, and never woke up.  So many prayers went out for her, but now the prayers are needed desperately for her parents.  I cannot fathom the pain they are feeling, from the loss of this precious baby girl.  QT Syndrome is probably the worse killer I have ever encountered.  It hits so suddenly, without any symptoms or warnings, and the word needs to be gotten out there.  There are no tests developed as yet, that can predict QT, and current CPR methods are not correct for survival.  The old way CPR was administered is what has to happen.  When CPR is given, the child will act like they are trying to get their breath.  THEY ARE NOT!  It is involuntary responses and is not a sign to STOP CPR!

Please pray for her family to help them through this awfully sad time.  Pray for God to give them the strength they need to get through the next few days, then weeks, then months.  My heart is breaking for them, and I send all the love there is to them.

Downsizing is No Fun!

Have you noticed how many vacant homes are in your neighborhood?  I have, and it makes me wonder…where did the families go?  I can tell you that; they moved in with other family members.  At least everyone I know, that has lost their home to their lender, has moved in with a relative.  That is what I did February 15, 2011.  The bank decided my modular home was not anything they wanted to continue financing, so they took it from me.  It really ticked me off, too.  I had lived there five years and had never been late or missed any payments at any time.  I thought I would never recover from the devastating situation I found myself in.  I envisioned living out of my car, bathing at some corner gas station with the nasty restroom, or worse yet moving in with either my son or one of my daughters.  ARGHHHHHH!!  I thought the world had slammed shut on my shoulders.

But, guess what?  I have lived with my youngest daughter since Feb. 15 and I love it.  I keep complaining about the room service but hopefully it will get better.  Maid service isn’t the best, but it will do.  I am not allowed in the kitchen to cook anything.  How can I mess up putting water in a pot?  If she is cooking something and I go to look in the pan or pot, she appears out of nowhere saying, “Mother! What are you doing?  Don’t mess with that!”  I just look at her and say, “I was just looking to see what it was, ‘cause it smells so wonderful.  I am not messing with it at all”.  Well, needless to say I just go sit at the table and place an order with her.  I don’t even look in the pots any more.  I have to admit I am getting used to having breakfast brought to me in bed.

I was thinking today about how things were a couple of centuries ago.  Grandparents would live with one of their children and it was an accepted thing.  Siblings married and lived together and that was a socially acceptable way of life.  When you stop and think about it, life can only be less demanding financially if one house contains two families.  If there is enough room, then it can hold more family members.  After my husband went home to be with our Lord, I lived alone.  Keeping house and doing my own thing for 11 years, I was wondering how I would adjust to my new living situation.  Since my daughter has two teenagers and an eight year old, I knew there would be more noise than I was accustomed to.  Living alone makes for a very quiet home.  I was right and it was an adjustment, but so is living in one room with two big dogs.

If you or a loved one is going through the same thing, embrace the time you have together.  God is doing a work on our nation, and as long as we remain united we will all come out winners.  I love being with my grandchildren; I have a wonderful relationship with them and I will treasure that always.  I am attending Argosy Online University, studying for my Bachelor of Psychology degree.  With God’s blessing I plan on entering Law School right after graduation.  I will be working toward getting my law degree and majoring in real estate law, with a minor in mortgage lending.  I want to be able to help anyone facing foreclosure or eviction.  Since I found out the majority of lawyers need a “fee” up front to even talk to you; I decided to do what I could to help others.

I hope if you are reading this, you will leave me a comment and let me know how you feel about the housing situation; has it impacted your family?  Are you now part of America’s growing unified/united family I call the Uni-family?   If you are, then consider yourself very blessed to have the time you have with your family members.  We never know when one or more won’t be here tomorrow.   If you have family members facing the loss of their home, welcome them to yours (if you can), it won’t be forever, but it will be a blessing I am sure.

God bless you and yours.  Carol

Winter Break

It is that time of the school year, when students get to stay at home and enjoy family, friends, doing nothing, playing video games, or whatever we want to do.  There is no class until after New Year‘s Day.  This goes for me too, and I am enjoying it.

Our house is still trying to recuperate from Christmas Eve and Christmas Morning.  I am finding bits of wrapping paper and ribbon everywhere.  This was the first Christmas since my children were little, that I was able to watch the excitement and joy on a child’s face as they opened their presents.  Since my children married and moved out, we always went to their house to “see what Santa brought”.  By the time we got to each one’s house, everything was opened and scattered all over the living room.  So we missed the expressions as they opened their gifts and were surprised.   I was able to watch Jacob’s face as he opened first this gift and then that one.  He was so excited, he had no more than finished one before he had started on another.

Those looks were worth a million bucks, but seeing his expression as he read an email direct to him from Santa, is indescribable.  In the email, Santa, called him by name, pointed out different items regarding Jacob’s family and school, and finally put his name in the “Naughty or Nice” machine.   It was adorable to see Jacob’s face as he anxiously waited to see if the machine labeled him naughty or nice.  When the green light signified Jacob was nice, Jacob yelled and whooped and hollered.  Then suddenly stopped, turned to us and said, “I knew it all the time”.

I am so glad I was able to be a part of his Christmas.  I hope each and every one of you had as great a time as I this Christmas.

Please remember our military personnel who are fighting for our freedoms, and who are not at home with their families this year; please say an extra prayer that they can come home soon.

GOD BLESS OUR TROOPS!     and   HAPPY NEW YEAR!

The Christmas I Remember Best

I am sure you have one particular Christmas that stands out in your mind.  Your favorite memory of a special holiday season.  Was it snowing?  Was the sun shining bright?  Were you a small child or were you the parent watching the child?  How many of us take the time to stop and remember past Christmases?  I think at this time of the year, for me, I remember many that held people who are no longer in my life, but have moved on home to be with our Lord.  My Mother and Father:  Christmas gatherings were always at their house, with all of their four children gathered around.  As we got older the crowd only got larger as we each brought our families to the Christmas family party.  Mom and Dad opened their presents first, and then from the youngest to the oldest came the rest of us.  It was a joyful time, but sadly it can no longer happen.  I miss them terribly, but only for a short time (for them) and we will be joined together again.

There were the times my husband and I watched our three children open their gifts on Christmas morning, with eyes sparkling from the twinkling lights on the tree, the shouts of joy when they opened a gift that was “Just What I Wanted”!  I think my most memorable Christmas was when we were completely broke.  I know this sounds crazy, but it was our best one ever.  I don’t remember why we were broke, but we were.  That year there was only enough money to buy each of our three children, only one pair of jeans.  I was so down, because we didn’t have enough money to buy a real Christmas tree and we had never had an artificial one before.  Well, we were coming back from somewhere, when the kids spotted a lot selling trees.  After begging  and begging, Bob and I decided it couldn’t hurt to look.  After all we still had $10.00, and maybe there was a discard we could find.

The kids jumped out of the car and began roaming around the lot.  As usual my husband, Bob, stayed at the car until we had found the most “perfect” one.  It was obvious this was not his first Christmas tree shopping trip,  When my oldest called me over to the best one she could find, I looked at the tag and nearly fainted.  She had a good eye and had found one that was only about five times more in cost than I had in funds.  In the meantime our youngest came rushing up, just as I said, “Honey, I don’t have that much money”.  “How much do you have, Mama”?  “I only have $10.00, and I still need to stop and get some bread and milk”.  “Oh…”, she said with a crestfallen look that would have made Scrooge cry.  Remember the saying “Little pitchers have big ears”?  You will see where they got that saying from in a minute.

We continued to look and at the back of the lot I spotted what had to be the original Charlie Brown Christmas Tree leaning against a back fence.  As I walked over to look at the price, the lot person asked if he could help us.  I looked at the pitiful tree and asked how much, and when he said $20.00, I could not believe my ears.  I said no thank you, and told the kids to let’s go.  He insisted he would have one just like we wanted, only I did not want him to know all the money I had in the world was $10.00.  That is when my youngest shouted to the world, “Mama can’t buy one of your trees ’cause they cost too much.  All she has is $10.00”.  I looked everywhere for a hole to crawl in but there was none to be found.  The lot was crowded with people even though it was Christmas Eve, and I felt like everyone had heard her.  “Let’s go, NOW”! I said under my breath, as I grabbed my youngest daughter’s hand and started to walk away.

The man said, “Uh, wait a minute maam, I think I have just the tree you want”.

Not wanting to have us become the laughing stock of the tree lot, I sent the three kids to the car and turned to the man to thank him, but he had walked ahead of me and turned and yelled “OVER HERE”.  Looking at the ground I went over to where he was holding a tree still in the mesh they wrap them in.  I couldn’t tell the kind but it looked really large and expensive.  Before I could protest he said, “I have this one I was going to let go for $5.00.  If you want it, it’s yours”.

“I will take it, thank you”.

He put it on top of the car as I stood waiting to hand him my five $1.00 bills.  When I went to hand him the money he just shook his head no and as he walked away, he turned and grinned and said “Merry Christmas”.  I could only respond in kind, since I was close to speechless.  Once we were home and had loosed the tree from its bindings, we found a gorgeous full blue spruce.  The kind he had marked on his lot for $70.00 plus.  When we had decorated it, the five of us just sat on the floor taking in the beauty of the decorated tree, and marveled at how blessed we really were and everyone agreed; this was the best Christmas we had ever had because it was the most beautiful tree in the world.  While I read the story of the baby Jesus to the children, the real meaning of Christmas became even more predominate to us, looking at the tree without the array of presents; just the warm glow of the lights filled the air and a feeling of peace and the love of God wrapped around us like a soft, warm blanket.

Merry Christmas to All and May God Bless You this Christmas Season.

                                                                                                                         Carol

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I can’t believe that Christmas is only 9 days away.  Wow!  The house is decorated with beautiful lights, inside and out.  There is a beautiful white Christmas tree in our breakfast room.  My daughter has exceptional decorating tastes.  There is a ceramic village all laid out on white batting that looks like snow, adorning the piano.  A smaller soft pink tree stands atop a tri-level corner shelf, decorated in beautiful green, silver, and crystal clear ornaments.  Three Santa figures sing Christmas Carols, and children slide down a white ramp that is supposed to be a ski slope.  My daughter has really gone all out, and it is looking gorgeous.  She is quite frugal and plans shopping sprees after Christmas is over.  She finds all types of bargains in decorations of all kinds.  She comes back with trees, ornaments, lights, figurines, garland, and who knows what else.  Most items she gets are anywhere from 50% to as much as 80% off because stores just want to get rid of the stock and reduce their inventory due to end of year accounting.

I wasn’t certain that moving in with my daughter and her family would work since I have been on my own now for nearly 13 years, but it is wonderful and I am so blessed.  Whenever I see the rooms all aglow with twinkling colored lights, a roaring fire in the fireplace,I feel like I have been bathed in the warmth and beauty of God’s love.  It makes me stop and realize that I have never been completely alone, because God is always with me.  He guides me, and gives me whatever I need to handle whatever I am faced with.

I know there is quite a bit of commercialism that surrounds the Christmas season, and many people do not have any idea what the real meaning of Christmas is all about.  So, remember to stop this year, and praise God for your blessings and for giving up His Son, to save us from our sins.  The tiny baby that laid in the manger, was sent to us, to change us, forgive us, and love us.  MERRY CHRISTMAS AND GOD BLESS US EACH AND EVERYONE.

My Book: Moonspinner Plantation; The Beginning

Well, I have been diligently working on my latest book, Moonspinner, The Beginning.  Since I have completed Flight From Moonspinner, and I am two-thirds of the way through on Return to Moonspinner, I am getting more and more excited.  The first one is coming along quite nicely and so far so good.  Return to Moonspinner is on hold, as I want to get this other one completed first.  Hopefully, I will be able to meet the criteria for a particular contest I am wanting to enter.  I have thought about posting a chapter or two here, but decided against it for now.  Maybe later.  So I will sign off for now in hopes of writing smoothly without any blanks hitting me.  Have a great evening all, and may God Bless Each and every one.

Time Flies The Older I Get!

It is truly unbelievable that the holidays are already on us, and another year will soon be gone.  I remember the days when I was much younger, that every upcoming event would seem to take FOREVER!  Do you remember the anticipation of Santa Clause coming?  Trying hard to be just as good as possible, since the great man was watching.  Suddenly, you didn’t fight with your siblings as much, just in case you might be seen.  Well, it is different now.  With age comes the rapid passing of time, when you turn around and the summer is over, then the holidays are right around the corner.  Somehow, each year seems to go faster and faster.  My grandchildren were just toddlers yesterday, and now several have graduated and one is planning her wedding.  Oh, these have been such blessed times, watching my children grow and then being there to watch my grandchildren as they grow.  God has truly given me the greatest gift there is, family.

My daughter just came in from shopping for her children for Christmas; naturally, including her nieces and nephews.  She had to have help bringing in the huge bags of assorted items for different ones.  The glow from the Christmas tree reflected in her happy countenance, and sparkling blue eyes. The holidays are very special to our family, and it seems each year we decorate just a bit more, start shopping a bit earlier, and buying the holiday food stuff just a tad bit sooner.  Meals are being planned with who is cooking what, and who will be bringing this or that.  My son always cooks the turkey and my baby girl always bakes the ham, and both have these down to a fine art.

My son’s birthday is today, Nov. 17, and my daughter’s birthday is Dec. 6 and, as usual, I gave each of them the same thing.  She got to open hers today, because he will be getting his today and both of them will be using it for preparing Thanksgiving dinner.  I think I got it right this year, because she said she wanted one and was going to try to find one herself.  It makes me feel so good to give something to someone who makes them happy.

I have to say thank you GOD for the many blessings, which are truly too many to count.  Until next time…HAPPY THANKSGIVING and MERRY CHRISTMAS!

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