Wills and Estates are not for the deceased, but the family left behind.

Posted On April 19, 2012

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Wills and Estates are not for the deceased, but the family left behind.  Trust me when I say this, because it is so very true.  Adopt the motto:  “When in doubt, write it out, and be specific!”

It never occurred to me what would happen if I lost my parents.  Now I realize how devastating the loss can truly be.  First I have had to deal with the physical loss of my mother, then of my father.  Mom went home in March 2008 and Dad joined her in September 2011.  They had each done their will in 1969, but it was a very basic page and one half and did not designate anything we need today.  My Dad verbally told us our brother was to be his executor, but he never put this in writing.  My two sisters and I decided to honor Dad’s wishes and support our brother however we could.  We just never expected to be completely barred from gaining the closure we needed.  Now, almost eight months later, we are back at square one.  There are so many items that must be addressed, it is mind-boggling.

My whole point in this post is to tell you this…Make yourself a Will and be specific about even the smallest minor item.  You may feel your car, truck, stereo, TV, or even your “bottle-cap collection” are only worth something to you, WRONG.  Someone in your family wants one of the items for certain.  If two people want the same thing, there could be an argument over the item.  You never know how some people can act when an estate (no matter how small) is involved.  It does not take a great deal of time to think about those you will leave behind, but those that are left could spend more time than you think just trying to sort through the tangled mess that is your life.  I say tangled mess because when you try to understand another person’s life, it sometimes makes no sense why this or that.

Another item that is vitally important is life insurance.  It does not have to be millions of dollars, but at least have enough for your final expenses.  So far we have spent several thousand dollars with more to be spent, just trying to get our Dad’s estate settled.

I just spent a couple of hours on the phone trying to get information that is needed and found out we also have to have money to probate the will and to publicize the estate.  It seems every way we turn, we spend out more that we have any hope of bringing in.

So, take this as fair warning, the longer you put off making out a Will, the harder it will be on your family, should something happen to you.

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